It’s natural for the mind to wander while we’re bored… or horny. It turns out most of the time our thoughts turn sexual, we fantasise about someone we know intimately. According to Justin Lehmiller, PhD, a research fellow at the The Kinsey Institute and social scientist who studies sex and fetishises, we’re significantly more likely to think about our current (or a previous) partner than we are a celebrity.
Lehmiller tells Men’s Health, “Men and women alike fantasise about more than just a mechanical sex act. We’re looking for a certain level of emotional fulfilment, too, whether that’s feeling desired or attractive, feeling sexually competent, or feeling connected to another person.”
He continues, “It’s a lot easier to envision feeling those emotions when you’re fantasising about someone you know as opposed to someone you’ve never met.”
For his latest book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, Lehmiller surveyed over 4,000 people about their sexual fantasies.
Ninety percent of his participants said they had fantasised about a romantic partner before, whereas only two-thirds had fantasised about a celebrity. Additionally, while 51% said they fantasise about their romantic partners often, a mere 7% said they fantasise about celebrities often.
But when we are thinking about celebrities, who pops up in our mind?
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The top 5 female celebrities men fantasise about are:
Women who fantasize about female celebrities actually have similar tastes to men. The top 5 female celebrities women fantasize about are:
The top 5 male celebrities woman fantasize about are:
Again, it seems like men and women have similar tastes when fantasising about male celebrities as the top 5 male celebrities men fantasises about are:
So is it bad to fantasise about celebrities, especially if you’re in a committed relationship?
According to Lehmiller’s research, it depends.
It could mean that you’re “not satisfied in your current relationship. When people aren’t happy with their love lives, they tend to fantasise more about people other than their current partners,” Lehmiller explains. “At the same time, though, frequent celebrities fantasies could also mean that you just have a very active imagination. People with overactive imaginations have more fantasies regarding just about everything simply because they’re always thinking.”
Perhaps the key to a health relationship is to fantasise having a threesome with Scarlett Johansson and your wife.
This article originally appeared on Men’s Health
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