Meeting a model is one thing, but sleeping with her and taking her home to meet the mother is quite another.
Like climbing Everest, it’s one of those fantasies you’ve probably labeled least likely to happen.
But think about it: these women are not robots. They like sex as much as you do. What’s stopping you becoming the guy who bagged the cover girl?
Like scaling that mountain, it just requires thorough preparation and exacting execution.
DON’T ASSUME THAT SHE’LL BE SHALLOW
It isn’t about how you look. “A lot of models aren’t with perfect, super-handsome guys,” says Sports Illustrated star Jessica Perez. One girl’s ‘not my type’ is another’s No.1. Clinical psychologist Dr Jay Watts explains: “Remember, these are often women who would have been considered ugly until puberty. The life of a model is one of constant rejection and comparison to others.”
Don’t assume she won’t accept a drink, either. A model’s career tends to be one of feast or famine, and many live pay cheque to pay cheque. Basically, your chances are the same as with any attractive woman.
CHOOSE YOUR VENUE AND LOOK LIKE YOU BELONG THERE
Models know where to go to find the kind of guy they’re after. These places tend to be crowded, offer views and sell outrageously overpriced drinks. Models work in locations around the world and, like any well-travelled woman, will be immersed in the latest drink trends.
As should you be: “Order a Negroni,” suggests Kate Pass, bars and spirits editor on Imbibe. One part Campari, one part gin and one part sweet vermouth, if the staff need to know. You’ll need to look like you fit in. Think Jon Hamm with a hint of Ryan Gosling. “Models always notice good shoes. Black leather brogues are ideal,” says designer Sophie Cabourn.
GET HER ATTENTION AND HOLD IT
The rules of initiating conversation are no different than with any other woman. “Every model I’ve ever worked with says they are the girl who no one wanted to kiss,” says Watts.
The most important thing is to have confidence, manners and a sense of being ‘good enough’. A woman who’s routinely praised for her looks isn’t going to respond to “you’re perfect”.
Ask her what she does for a living. Once you hear that magic “m” word, she’s trying to impress you. Follow up fast with an intelligent question about the profession: “The best conversation starter I’ve heard is when a guy asked me what I intended to do when I couldn’t model anymore,” says model Laura Foster. “I’d not thought about it. Then he gave me some really straight advice.”
GUAGE HER INTEREST … THEN SEAL THE DEAL
Once you’ve bought her two drinks, it’s time to make sure you’re not in her friend zone. “Ask if she has a casting or shoot the next morning and see how she reacts,” says Foster. “The fact that she’s let you buy her drinks means you’re miles further along the line than every other guy in the room.”
By this point, you’ll know whether she is willing to leave with you. And if she does, prepare to be disappointed. “Models expect to be pleased,” says film director Ryan Lucas, who has dated many. “Most of these women have never really had to try hard at anything – sex included.” The next day, don’t bother with games. If you want to see her again, say so. If she turns you down, don’t worry: like scaling Everest, making it with a model is far easier the second time around.