Ask the MH girls the questions you can’t ask anyone else. They’re three women who speak their mind, so don’t expect sugar-coated answers. Today they’re asked:“I’m confident on dates, but I hate texting and have terrible chat. With online dating, girls seem to expect good banter before meeting. How can I land a date without weeks of texting?” – TT
Jess: I think the best thing you can do when online dating is to arrange a date sooner rather than later and avoid falling into the trap of weeks and weeks of texting. For me, it feels awkward when
a date is so long in coming that the first time you meet in person you have this backlog of communication that creates the illusion of a connection.
Nik: I’d also just be honest and say, “I’m not the best at texting so would love to meet up soon . . .”
Becky: Personally, I think good chat is important pre-date. It kinda freaks me out when someone wants to meet up ASAP. TT, could you phone a friend to help you out with some good chat?
Nik: Ah, a modern-day Cyrano.
Becky: And then, agreed, shoot for sooner, but I think at least a day or two of banter is important.
Jess: Sure, even a few days, but not a month!
Becky: No way. No one wants a pen pal.
Nik: Hey, TT, maybe your banter isn’t as lame as you think.
Jess: And you could suggest a call: Hey, it would be great to hear your voice – how about hopping on a call? A call will be more revealing of them and your chances of connecting.
Becky: I think if the other person is serious about meeting up, then they won’t want weeks of texting either.
Nik: And they’ll know they’re not being catfished, lol. But I am so awkward with phone calls with people I haven’t met.
Becky: Same. But, hey, some people love them. Save yourself some time and move things along without trying to spook anyone.