Foreplay isn’t optional. It’s not something that you can half-ass for two minutes before rushing into P-in-V or P-in-B sex. Instead, it’s something you should take your time with to get both your partner and yourself in the mood.
Honestly, the term “foreplay” is a misnomer because it implies that what comes next—the actual “play” or intercourse—is somehow better. But that’s not the case. Most people with a vulva can’t orgasm through penetration alone. They require clitoral stimulation in order to experience climax, which happens when the external clitoral glands are engaged. The most reliable way of doing this is not through penetration, but through a sex toy.
But don’t just take our word for it – according to a study published in the journal Psychology & Sexuality, there’s a strong link between sexual satisfaction and sex toy use – both your partner alone and with you. After surveying 488 participants, researchers found that those who regularly used a toy with their significant other felt more positively about their bedroom antics than those who only did so solo. They were also more likely to agree with statements such as “My partner has no difficulty in talking to me about his or her sexual feelings and desires” and “I seldom feel embarrassed when talking about the details of our sex life with my partner.”
However not all toys are the same, so if you’re going to do it – you need to do it right. And that’s where the LELO IDA™ Wave comes in.
The perfect device for any occasion, it’s one of those gifts that proves you really have your partner’s needs and wants in mind. And learning how to use it – properly – just for your partner, is some next level dedication, and a huge turn on.
A dual vibrator, the IDA™ Wave will not only offer your partner internal stimulation, but it’s also a clitoral massager, meaning it provides vibrations for the clitoris, too. The insertable tail “rotates” while simultaneously carrying over the vibrations from the head, targeting the G-spot.
But here’s where it gets better: the device is connected to an app, which means this couple’s sex toy allows you to control what’s going on – giving your partner a truly hands-free experience. You can choose from 10 intensity settings, going all the way from a teasing murmur to a satisfying pulse.
Run it up and down their labia, over the mons, the inner thighs, and around the clitoris. Ask her to show you what she would do with it. In saying that – no matter your partner’s genitals, it’s important to start off slowly and gently. This is especially true if there is a clitoris involved. As wonderful as the clit is, it can be easily overstimulated if you rush right to it (plus – women aren’t able to experience the full potential of pleasure if you move too quickly).
Take time to re-learn your partner’s desires with LELO IDA™ Wave, here.