Ask the MH girls the questions you can’t ask anyone else. They’re three women who speak their mind, so don’t expect sugar-coated answers. Today they’re asked: How concerned should I be if a girl has a high body count? – DT
Becky: Okay, well, firstly, I think the main concern here is that you’re concerned. Why would this be something that bothers you?
Jess: Exactly. No, you shouldn’t be concerned. The fact that men ask this question about women is, I reckon, proof of the myth society perpetuates that women have low libidos. Because we’re expected to have low libidos, a high body count becomes alarming.
Nik: Yeah, I think you probably need to reflect on yourself if you’re asking this.
Becky: Are you concerned about your own body count? Or just hers?
Jess: And where would the concern stem from? Is it that you have a desire for monogamy and a high body count suggests she would cheat? Or is it jealousy over her past experiences? If it’s the former, I don’t think there’s any correlation. If it’s the latter, I’d say that’s not healthy. No one has the right to make someone feel ashamed of their past.
Becky: Everyone has a past. If you want to judge someone on their past, I hope you’re open to being judged right back, DT.
Nik: No one should be shaming you or judging you for how many or how few people you’ve slept with. And if they are, that’s a red flag.
Jess: Christopher Ryan’s book Sex at Dawn is a really good reference point for this question. If you’re single and practising safe sex, you should be able to f*ck anyone and everyone you want to. Basically, Ryan explains how women have always been attracted to novelty in mating, but various cultures around the world have sought to control this. And these kinds of questions are an example of that.
Becky: Hmm, have we been too savage on a loyal MH reader? I guess you’ve triggered us, DT. Get with the times!
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