Maybe you’ve always wanted to try it but feel nervous about taking the plunge. Or maybe anal is already part of your sex routine and you’re looking for tips to make it even hotter. Or maybe you’re just curious to know what backdoor sex is really like. Whether you’re an anal virgin or a die-hard fan, you’ll want to keep reading: We talked to sex experts Jessica O’Reilly, and Jane Greer to get answers to all of your butt sex-related questions.
Q: How Do I Get Started?
A: “The most important thing is feeling comfortable—you can even wash beforehand if that will help,” says Greer. Then, she says, it’s all about starting slowly. “You can begin with inserting a finger first and using lube to get comfortable with the pressure in your rectum,” she says. “Pay attention to other erotic zones—breasts, neck, etc.—to get excited at the same time as you’re being stimulated anally.”
O’Reilly suggests dipping your toe into the water before you dive all the way in: “Wait until you’re very close to orgasm before introducing new sex acts—like anal penetration—into your routine,” she says. “When you’re aroused, the hormonal changes in your body have a palliative effect and help you to relax and experience pleasure more profoundly.”
Q: Is Penetration Absolutely Necessary?
A: Nope—you can enjoy butt play even if you’re not ready to go all the way just yet. Before you go the penetration route, O’Reilly recommends playing with your “pucker” (a.k.a. your butt hole). She says to, “press, fondle, stroke, and swirl your way around to become more comfortable with pleasurable sensations in the region.”
This article was originally published by Women’s Health.