When it comes to getting it on, you’ve probably established a few tried-and-true routines. But a healthy sex life means experimenting every now and then – not just with a partner, but during masturbation too.
“The most sexually arousing experience is newness and novelty,” says Chris Donaghue, a licensed sex therapist and ambassador for the sex toy company TENGA. “Habits and patterns kill sexual arousal. When you’re masturbating, try new sexual things that might make you anzious. This will not only increase eroticism, but can help make your orgasms more powerful.”
So what can you do to spice up your next solo sex session? We reached out to sex experts and combed some of MH’s past coverage to put together this master list of masturbation tips and techniques for men. If you want to know how to masturbate to the absolutely best of your ability, keep reading my friend.
Explore new parts of your body
“Don’t be afraid to explore other parts of your body,” Donaghue says. “Our whole body is wired for pleasure. Try touching your nipples, the top of your thighs and your sacrum, and zone in on how stimulating them makes you feel.”
Change your position
“People laugh because I’ll ask them, ‘Have you ever masturbated standing?,'” Donaghue previously told MensHealth.com.
It turns out, a lot of guys masturbate in the same position every single time. By switching it up, you can make your solo sessions “more interesting and dynamic,” he says. If lying on your back in bed is your go-to position, try doing it sitting in a chair or standing in the shower.
Change your grip
“Your hands are nature’s sex toy, so don’t underestimate their pleasure power!” Anne Hodder, a sex and relationships educator based in Los Angeles, tells MensHealth.com. “Experiment with your grip; tighten is as you stroke toward the body and loosen it as you move away from the body.”
“Think about how many fingers you’re using to wrap around your shaft,” Hodder says. “All five can cover more surface area, but what would it feel like to make an a-OK symbol with your thumb and pointer finger, and swirl up and down your dick?”
Put that opposite hand to good use
Here’s another new way to use your hands: Take the hand you don’t normally use to masturbate, turn it so it slides down your shaft forefinger-first, and twist it as you stroke, sex therapist Emily Morse, Ph.D. previously told MensHealth.com.
Your testicles are loaded with nerve endings, so don’t neglect them during masturbation, Morse advised. Lots of guys find their orgasms are more powerful when they pull down on their balls rhythmically before they come — but you should play around to find out what feels good to you.
Use both hands at once
When you’re masturbating, “Don’t forget to use both hands,” Hodder says.
Her suggestions for multi-tasking? “While one [hand] is stroking, use the other to stroke or cup the testicles. Maybe experiment with applying pressure against the perineum or tickling your nipples while you’re stroking with the other hand, especially as you get closer to orgasm — you might experience an even more powerful orgasm!”
Edging is the act of bringing yourself almost to the point of orgasm — and then abruptly cutting off all stimulation until you get your arousal under control.
This masturbation technique can help you train yourself to better control your orgasms and last longer during sex, Morse told MensHealth.com. Plus, think of how good it’ll feel when you finally let yourself come.
If you’re going to try edging, you probably want to load up on lube. You don’t want to end up with chafing from too much friction.
Try the ‘squeeze’
The ‘squeeze’ is another masturbation technique that may help you last longer in bed.
When you feel yourself about to have an orgasm, stop what you’re doing and squeeze your penis right below the head. Use our thumb and forefinger to apply firm pressure to the urethra — the tube that runs along the bottom of your penis, Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a sex therapist and author of She Comes First, previously advised. By doing so, you’ll push blood out of your member and decrease your arousal — which will help you control your orgasms.
Do it at least 3 times a week
Did you know that regular masturbation can give you stronger erections?
Masturbation “keeps the angle of your dangle perky,” Gloria Brame, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist, previously told MensHealth.com. Whenever there’s a rush of blood to your nether regions — i.e., when you get an erection — the muscle of your penis becomes enriched with oxygen. Masturbation also helps strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which in turn can prevent erectile dysfunction.
Open your mind to toys
“A lot of guys are hesitant to use sex toys, even with their female partners, but they’re missing out on better masturbation and sex,” Donaghue says.
A 2018 study by TENGA found that just 53 percent of men were open to using sex toys on themselves — but that 80 percent of men who’d tried them said they improved their sexual experience. The survey was conducted by a sex toy company, so take it with a grain of salt — but there’s no denying that it feels pretty damn good to give your wrist a break once in a while.
“The benefits of men using sex toys are simple: stress relief and intense pleasure — coincidentally, the same benefits that orgasms provide!” Brian Sloan, creator of the Autoblow 2, tells MensHealth.com. “Plus, whatever a man learns about what he likes during his solo toy sessions can be communicated to his partner to provide a better experience for both people.”
Find your prostate
If you’re familiar with the so-called “male G-spot,” you know that stimulating your prostate can feel really good during sex or masturbation. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and rectum; you can find it by inserting your (clean, lubed-up) fingers about two inches into your rectum, and curving them toward your belly-button.