When it comes to male ejaculation and female pleasure, the main focus is on the time it takes (or doesn’t) to release the gentleman’s relish (you can thank Urban Dictionary for that one). But research has gone a little deeper into the details of your orgasm – like volume and intensity – that could impacts hers.
A study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine surveyed 240 sexually active, heterosexual women about their attitudes towards ejaculation and the findings were pretty varied.
“Here, we are talking about other ‘non-clinically relevant’ aspects, such as how much ejaculate he expels or how loudly he moans, etc,” study author Andrea Burri told Psy Post. “I noticed that many women find it very distressing when their male partner suffers from delayed ejaculation or the inability to ejaculate — mostly because it gives them the feeling of not being desired or attractive. Yet, there is not much — well next to none — research out there that has taken a closer look on how the man’s ejaculation affects women, their own sexual satisfaction and their sexual functioning and what aspects they consider important.”
If you can’t manage to blow a batch during sex, half of women won’t be phased. The research found that only 50.43 per cent of respondents considered it very important that the partner ejaculates during intercourse and 22.6 per cent of women experienced a more intense orgasm when their partner ejaculated during vaginal intercourse.
“Not surprisingly, how important it is to the woman that her partner ejaculates during sexual activity depends on how important she overall considers sex to be and also how important it is for her to experience an orgasm. There are plenty of women who tell me that it is about intimacy and that they actually don’t care about whether or not they have an orgasm. But for some women it is indeed important,” Burri explained.
However, less ladies will be thrilled if you get off before they do, with only 18.3 per cent of women preferring that their partner ejaculates before they reach orgasm.
The findings on volume aren’t decisive – 20.9 per cent of women did not feel that their orgasm was more intense depending on the subjectively felt ejaculate quantity, whereas the majority (37.9%) said it didn’t matter.
When it comes to grunts and groans – AKA intensity – 17.4 per cent of women reporting that they definitely experienced a more intensive orgasm depending on the intensity of their partner’s ejaculation, whereas for 17.8 per cent this didn’t matter at all.
The most interesting finding? Women who rated their partner’s ejaculation was intense and, ahem, ample, reported better orgasms and more lifelong sexual satisfaction. Considering the data is self-reported and pretty subjective (she’s not measuring your spunk out in millimetres, after all) it’s important to take this info with a grain of salt. And perhaps it won’t hurt to throw a couple more moans in the grand finale…
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