Ah, social media. On the plus side, it’s a great tool for keeping up with anyone you’ve ever crossed paths with. On the not-so-plus side, it ain’t so great for the love life if you’re taken – too much acknowledgement of your significant other spells trouble in paradise, not enough is cause for concern. Case in point: this research out of Carnegie Mellon University and the University of Kansas, that establishes a direct correlation between posting personal info online and relationship satisfaction.
The study, first published in the journal PLOS ONE, found that when a person frequently shares things to Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, it negatively impacts their partner’s feelings of intimacy towards them.
Their reasoning? The romantic partner feels left out and might see themselves as less special.
“On the other hand, when you include a significant other in your post, perhaps as confirming a relationship status online or posting a photo together, we found that it counters the negative effect s of online disclosure, increasing the feelings of intimacy and satisfaction,” Omri Gillath, a professor at KU explains.
“This validates the relationship, and a partner likely would see their significant other’s post as caring and inclusive.”
Bottom line: if you’re a sucker for oversharing, you keep doing you. But if wanna keep your partner on side, you might wanna try giving them a shoutout every once in a while, too.
This article originally appeared on Women’s Health