There are few sexual positions more polarising than 69. Many of us tried the classic position out a few times in high school and early college, but quickly gave it up, coming to the conclusion that it’s a lot of awkward work for very little reward. Besides, the person better at giving oral often finds themselves punished for their superior skills, while the receiver starts moaning loudly, taking a break from orally pleasing their partner—that’s not how 69 works! To do the 69 sex position correctly, the two people involved need to both give and receive oral simultaneously.
The people who love 69 have mastered the art of the complicated sex position. They don’t rush into it. They find a style that works for both of them, where neither are straining their necks to get where they need to go.
With that said, let’s talk about 69, and its many sexy-ass variations.
1) Classic 69
How it works: Two people align themselves so that each person’s mouth is near the other’s genitals. This is done by having one person lie down on their back. The other lies on top of them with their knees straddling their partner’s head. The two people can then perform oral sex on one another. In opposite-sex partners, the woman is typically the person on top, whereas the man is on his back.
Pro tip: Use a pillows or a sex wedge if you’re struggling to reach or find yourself straining your neck or another part of your body.
2) Inverted 69
How it works: It’s the same as the classic, however, instead of the woman being on top, the man is.
Perks of variation: While not inherent in the variation itself, the inverted 69 position tends to be a rougher experience. It’s an ideal position for women who like to deepthroat because with the man on top, he has more control of his thrusting ability and can go a lot harder and deeper down the throat.
3) Sideways 69
How it works: Instead of positioning one on top of the other, both participants are lying on their sides.
Perks of variation: If you’re struggling to reach each other’s genitals with the classic 69, sideways 69 may be the position for you. In my experience it makes it easier to reach everything. It also requires less work for the person who’s traditionally on top. While on top, you’re often on your knees and an at least one elbow, which can get strenuous if done for long periods of time.
4) Squatting 69
How it works: Instead of having your partner lie on top of you, have them squat over you.
Perks of variation: This will require lower back, glute, and quad strength and flexibility, but if they have it, it’s a fun variation on the classic. The squat variation also allows for better ass slapping.
How it works: Rather than lying on a flat surface, you actually hold your partner up-side-down while you’re standing.
Perks of variation: You will feel like a god if you’re able to pull this off.
Cons of variation: Unless you are a muscle daddy, odds are you won’t have the strength to pick up your partner safely. That’s why this position is ideal when your partner is particularly petite.
6) Penetrative 69
How it works: In addition to orally stimulating your partner. use either your fingers or a sex toy to penetrate them. If your partner has a vagina, you can lick/suck their clitoris while digitally penetrating her vagina. Or, if your partner is into it, you can eat their vagina while you finger their anus (or vice-a-versa). You can do this with men, too. While being blown, have your partner massage your prostate for more intense pleasure.
Perks of variation: With internal stimulation, pleasure rises exponentially for both parties involved.
7) Analingus 69
How it works: While we’re on the topic of anal-inclusive 69 variants, you can just eat out your partner’s booty exclusively. Or, a variation that is common among two men is when the “bottom” (the one receiving anal) blows their partner, where the top (the man who will insert his penis into his partner) eats out their partner’s anus. It’s a form of foreplay to loosen and warm up the bottom for penetrative anal sex.
Perks of variation: If you’re into anal and/or prostate play, this is for you.
8) Threesome 69 (aka The Triangle)
How it works: Well, first and foremost you need to bring a special third in for the threesome 69. While lying on your side with your partners in a triangle formation, each partner performs oral on the next person. In this position, you will perform oral on one partner and receive oral from the other.
Perks of variation: It’s hot to have a third person in on all the fun. It’s also a threesome position that’s equally inclusive of all parties involved.
This article originally appeared on Men’s Health