5. Perform at the Beeo
If you get her voicemail, be the one guy today who leaves a message.
To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately loud. Stand up and hum a little before you call – it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch.
“Say who you are, where you met, and why you’re calling,” says Kent Sayre, author of Unstoppable Confidence. “Ask a question that presupposes her interest in you, like, ‘How soon would you like to get together?’ That way it’s not a matter of yes or no.”
Leave your number and ask her to call you back. If she doesn’t, call her again a couple of days later.
6. Don’t Expose Your Negatives
When talking about yourself, keep it positive. Stick to your best attributes and the interests you’re most passionate about.
“Give the press-release version of you,” says Dr Kate Wachs, a psychologist and author of Relationships for Dummies. “Tell her everything good about your life that you wouldn’t mind seeing in 4-inch-high letters on the front page of the newspaper the next morning.”
7. Have a Seat
Always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her instead of straight on for a dinner date, says Steele. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the first seat to her left.
Turn toward her from the waist, which will give her the opportunity to turn toward you.
“Women don’t like a full-frontal assault. It’s intimidating,” says Steele. “A confident man realizes he should give the woman the choice to turn to him, and he is sure that she will.”
8. Be Direct
If you’d like to go into her apartment, tell her at the door – and skip the excuse about needing to use her bathroom.
Want to kiss her goodnight? Go for it. “Kissing someone is an emotional thing, and asking [permission] diverts it into a cognitive realm instead,“ says Wachs. “Women hate that.”
9. Celebrate Her Success
A confident man doesn’t feel emasculated if the woman he’s with makes more money than he does; he takes it as a compliment.
“More than ever, successful single women earning more than $60K a year are looking for warm, loving men,” says Coche. “They’re more selective in their partner choice because they can afford to reprioritize.”
Truth is, she wouldn’t be dating you if she didn’t think you’re a catch. It’s when you believe it yourself that she’ll be convinced.
This article first appeared on MensHealth.com