According to a 2015 study, the average penis length is 5.16 inches. If your penis falls short of that benchmark, then you are statistically on the smaller than average side. But never fear: for most ladies, that’s not a dealbreaker. In fact, most studies have shown that women don’t care that much about penis size in the first place. To quote the old adage, it’s not the size of the wave, but the motion of the ocean that matters.
Nonetheless, if you are smaller than average, you still might feel insecure about it. “Some men make the mistake of comparing themselves to porn stars—the Olympic athletes of sex—and that just isn’t realistic,” says Holly Richmond, PhD, Somatic Psychologist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. “In my therapeutic experience, most women do not talk about wanting a man with a big penis. They talk about wanting a man who is good in bed. That means someone who is communicative, takes his time and is attentive to her needs.”
What’s more, if you know how to work it, you can use your smaller penis to your advantage. “Anecdotally, I’ve actually heard that men with small penises are better in bed because they make more of an effort,” Richmond says.
If you happen to be a little less than well-endowed, here are 6 sex positions to get the most bang for your buck (pun very much intended).
This one is great because it allows you to use your partner’s leg as leverage. “Have your partner lie on floor with one leg extended straight. Kneel between her legs and raise her other leg straight up so it’s resting on your shoulder. Keep ahold of her leg as you enter, and use it to push and pull on as you thrust in and out,” says Richmond.
Have her lie on the bed on her stomach with her feet squeezed tightly together, like Supergirl flying through the sky (hands out in front is optional). “Lie on her back and enter from behind. Because her hips are in a position that’s more closed than open, there will be greater friction created on her vaginal walls,” says Richmond. The tighter she squeezes her legs, the more friction and pleasure you’ll both feel. And if you want to turn this into superhero roleplay, all the better.