The only thing better than an orgasm is one that lasts for a full minute.
Yes, the 60-second climax really exists, according to Dr Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life.
It’s not typical – the female orgasm usually lasts 6 to 30 seconds, Nagoski says. But if her mood and your moves are right, her climax can keep going. Prolong her pleasure with six easy strategies.
So start by setting the mood. If she’s keyed up after a stressful day, give her a back massage to ease her into a more laid-back state. Turn off your cell phones, lock your doors, hit the lights, and put on the slow jams: Music and candlelight will help calm her central nervous system, says licensed marriage and sex therapist Dr Kat Van Kirk.
So show her how much she turns you on: Pull her toward you eagerly, tell her how amazing you think her backside is, and linger as you kiss and caress her body. Don’t underestimate the power of a well-timed “wow” as she strips.
Otherwise, start by telling her how wet, warm, and incredible she feels against you. Try taking control and commanding her to turn over when changing positions – some women find that hot. If calling her a “bad girl” is her thing, go for it. If not, don’t force it.
If you know she loves oral sex, start to go down on her slowly and gently. Pay close attention to her response. As she gets closer to orgasm, she will begin panting faster and you may be able to feel growing tension in her abs, thighs, and butt.
First, find out if she wants you to ease up. Lean into her ear and softly ask her if she likes it gentle or hard. If she prefers a lighter touch, just ease up on the pressure. Another option: Try moving your finger, tongue, or vibrator to the 1-o’clock spot, just outside and above her clitoris. She will either love the delicate, indirect touch or redirect you back to where she wants it. Follow her lead.