The Best First Message To Send On A Dating Site | Men's Health Magazine Australia

The Best First Message To Send On A Dating Site

As any guy who’s ventured onto Tinder or OKCupid knows, that first message is daunting. Should you lead with a compliment? A simple “Hey, how are you?”

 

To find out, the dating site Plenty of Fish asked more than 1000 people who had met their spouses online what their first message said.

Your best bet: mention something specific in her profile, like her footy jersey or your shared obsession with Game of Thrones. Nearly 20 per cent of the women surveyed said their husbands used this trick.

 

That doesn’t include comments on her appearance, like “You have beautiful eyes”. Only nine per cent of the marriages started that way.

 

Cherry-picking a detail out of her profile shows that you’ve done your homework – beyond checking out her pictures – and gives her an idea of what you have in common, according to women we spoke with.

 

“My profile described my deep love of grotesque horror films,” says Cat, a 36-year-old writer. One guy sent her a link to an upcoming scary movie marathon, which became their first date.

 

They hit it off, and now are hitched.

 

Kaitlyn, a 32-year-old graduate student, could tell she and her fiancé had a lot in common when he referenced her literature PhD program in his OKCupid introduction.

 

“He asked me what time period of literature I studied and told me about his thesis in literature,” she says. “He was clearly smart and focused on what we had in common.”

 

So scour her profile for a quirk or hobby that intrigues you. Beyond how great she looks in her pic.

 

If her username references a band, see what she thinks of their latest album. Or if she’s wearing a sports jersey in one of her photos, ask her out to a game. It just might be your last first date.

By Mens Health Staff

More From

Finding balance: how yoga can help you defy ageing

Finding balance: how yoga can help you defy ageing

Step into the world of wellness with Manoj Dias, your aficionado and fearless trend-chaser. In this column, we're delving deep into the hottest and obscure wellness trends and having candid conversations with pop culture icons. Our mission? Demystify wellness and bring it down to earth for all. First up, Dias recalls his first yoga class and reveals how the ancient practice can help fortify your mind and body as you age.

Isaac Humphries is unshackled

Isaac Humphries is unshackled

After coming out in November 2022, the Adelaide 36ers centre remains the only openly gay professional basketball player in the world. With the NBL's Champion Pride Round underway, Humphries reflects on his journey and the reasons why he’s playing the best basketball of his career.